Baatein bhool jaate hai, Yaadein yaad aati hai…
When someone leaves your life, it’s as if you’re left with a huge hole and no matter what you do or whoever comes along, that hole is never filled… you just learn to live with that hole. Living with that kind of void means having to deal with memories – good memories, bad memories but memories nonetheless. For the most part, these memories help you through the void and are often a consolation when things get a bit too much. It’s never an easy process but the more you let yourself overcome those feelings, the better you will be able to move on and these very same memories will help you smile once again.
On a personal level, I often wonder what kinds of memories I’ve left with people who aren’t in my life any longer. I suppose we all want to leave at least one good memory but it does make me think. I also ponder over the kind of daughter, grand-daughter, sister, niece, and friend I am. I hope that whenever my loved ones think about me, they can associate trust with me above all else. I think about the kinds of words my friends would use to describe me and contemplate whether I have the kinds of people around me who would let me get to know myself… through their eyes. I honestly believe that no matter how well you think you know yourself, at some point, someone will come along who shows you yet a different side of you. The best of these “someones” is particularly those who instantly become close to heart. Personally, I have a handful of people who are close to heart and believe it or not, not all of them know this! I learn so much about myself by observing the way I act towards them. I would never do these people wrong… never ever.
Memories come in the oddest forms and don’t I know it! I remember the most random things about people, about instances and about movies. One of the most memorable movie moments for me is in the film Dil To Pagal Hai. I could choose any number of scenes from this film as it’s my favourite Shah Rukh Khan film of all time. The one scene which is undoubtedly the most unforgettable for me is when Nisha (Karisma Kapoor) discovers that Rahul (SRK) is madly in love with Pooja (Madhuri Dixit). The scene in question finds Nisha sitting near a lake throwing stones into the water before Rahul enters and makes her cry by saying that God is wrong not to make two people fall in love with each other, instead choosing to bring a third person into the equation which, in turn, results in one person getting hurt unfairly. The scene is so filmi and just soooooo… erm… typical of SRK! His eyes do sooo much talking it’s unreal!
Another memorable scene for me is in Mujhse Dosti Karoge. It’s the scene where Tina (Kareena Kapoor) and Pooja (Rani Mukerjee) are outside Harrods waiting to cross the road to meet Raj (Hrithik). A car comes at speed around the corner they are crossing at and Raj calls out Pooja’s name when he is actually engaged (and supposedly in love with) Tina. What follows is a conversation between the three in which Tina asks Raj if he had to choose to save one of the two, who would he save? Tina then says one line to Raj to end the “uncomfortable” conversation before Pooja storms off in anger: to choose friendship over love every time, no matter what. Wah, wah… kya line hai!
The final scene I will mention as memorable for me personally is the scene in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai when Rahul (Shah Rukh Khan) and Anjali (Kajol) meet, after a gap of 8 years, at Summer Camp. The way they don’t know whether to hug or shake hands is beyond cute and emotional in all the right ways. They eventually compromise by holding hands to greet each other in front of the children at the camp. In my opinion, this is undoubtedly one of this jodi’s best scenes ever.
Conveying some of my personal faves has been great… but I still have the sinking feeling. My memories will get me through and I know that. Also, someone very wise once said that “Time heals all wounds”.
Lots of love to all…
PS. Jaadu ki jappi needed ASAP… anyone?! 😦