Behind every successful woman is a man who says, "I knew she could do it!"

At some point in everyone’s life, there comes a person who makes you feel all warm inside. He makes you feel that there was no *spice* in your life without him. He gives you a sense of belonging. He brings romance, fun and friendship to your life like never before. You get butterflies in your tummy at the thought of his presence and no matter how much you try to fight it, you know you’ve fallen in love with… the way he makes you feel. You feel alive at his every interaction but mostly, you feel well and truly blessed at having him in your life. In him, you find your best friend, a companion, someone to lean on and someone who keeps you on your toes. In him you also find that one person you can’t do without… and also the one person that sometimes gets too much.

Upon reading the above, I know many of you reading will automatically come to the kind of conclusion that is inevitable. However, it’s safe to say that the majority of you are more than likely to be wrong. The person I’ve described is every girl’s worst nightmare and also her most beautiful dream. It is, of course, a male friend. For those of you out there who believe a boy and girl can’t ever be friends, I’m sorry to say you’re very much mistaken. I put my hand on my heart and say that some of my most cherished and long-lasting friendships have been with those of the opposite sex. Although I’m the first to admit that there was a point in my life where I had mainly female friends, I can also reveal that the friendships i’ve gotten the most out of have been with the males.

I’m blessed to have so many talented, caring and good-hearted men in my life. I feel it is this manly influence in my life that makes my expectations of a man so high. When you’re used to being around men who constantly inspire you to become the best you can possibly be and encourage you not to let go of your roots whilst doing so, it’s a tall order for any new man to live up to. I feel these very men have been essential in recent years in helping me make a journey which hasn’t been all pretty and perfect. They have been my pillars of support, always there with the right words, the right messages of encouragement and the kind of love that is hard to express in to words.

I started this post with just an inital thought and not knowing where exactly the words would take me. As an end thought, I would like to say a heartfelt thank you to my male friends for being so supportive and for making me realise my own potential. Although it’s sometimes hard to believe, I don’t think I would be me without the male influences of my friends and I hope I don’t see a day without these relationships that means so much to me. Men: you can’t live with them and you can’t live without them… well, I for one know that I don’t want to live without! 🙂


  1. I do agree with wat u saying
    My point is Friendship doesn’t need gender criteria. Friendship dnt have any gender . I must admit a man needs a woman as friend same as a woman want man in her life as friend not as owner.
    I always try to be friendly regardless of gender


  2. It’s always an interesting adventure to find out which boys are the goodhearted ones and which ones are only around because they think maybe eventually they can take a piece of your soul, I don’t like these boys but the good eggs are out there and I join you in thanking them!


  3. A brief and realistic article about friendship and male encouragement, its true that male & female can be true and long lasting friends…Apart of that i will also suggest to write same kind of article about very first perception & some how -ve understanding of female gender to opposite gender. Its not always true but many time it do happen.

    have lovely weekend


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